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Forgiveness After Child Abuse


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Isaiah 53:5 By His Stripes We Are Healed


Forgivness After Child Abuse

 Forgiveness is a choice.  We must yield to the Holy Spirit, who declares that we are more than conquerors through Christ, and that we are able to do all things through Christ who strengthens us.  It is impossible for us to forgive an abuser in our own strength.  It takes the operation of the Holy Spirit, the Physician from on High to work through the victim in order that we can truly forgive, and receive healing from emotional wounds caused by trauma.

I will tell you about “my story” of forgiveness; and the healing God gave to me through that forgiveness. 

I always had trouble choosing a FATHER’S DAY card; I would stand there reading every single card on the shelf unable to choose one. 

That was the most difficult thing for me to do, was to choose a card for my Dad.  Why?  Because all the physical and sexual abuse in which I had endured throughout my childhood.  On one particular Father’s Day in 1997, I went through all the cards on the shelf as usual, picked one of them up, read it, and cried.  I felt the Lord tugging at my heart to purchase “this” card, so I did.  I took the card home, read it again and cried.

It was the sweetest card, but it was working on my emotions.  Now I had to write something inside of the card and take it to my Dad.  I sat down and thought about what I would like to say to him.  I remember this like it happened yesterday.  I told him Happy Father’s Day, and I loved him.  I filled the card out and took it to my Dad. 

 Now was the difficult part.  Not only giving it to him, but God wanted me to read it to him.  I started to read, but could not finish because I started crying, (which is what I am about to do now).  I handed the card to my oldest daughter and she finished reading to my Dad.  When I looked up at him, he was crying also.  He reached over and hugged me while we both cried . 

This was the beginning of my journey on the road to recovery.  I chose to yield to the Holy Spirit that day when He nudged my heart to purchase that Father’s Day card.  God began doing a work of healing in my life that day. It is an ongoing process today.

There must be a desire on our part along with obedience to God’s way of doing things.  I had always chosen cards that were not meaningful, but just a simple card.  God had something else on His mind.  Our thoughts are not God’s thoughts and our ways are not God’s ways.  This was not the end of what God would have me do.

My Dad had a triple bypass, from heart disease, high blood pressure, and eventually lost both legs.  (This happened years before the Father’s Day card).  As the years went by, my Dad proceeded to become more ill.  My Dad was taken to the hospital, and had to be admitted  in 2007.

 While he was in the hospital, the Lord once again prompted me to go visit my Dad, and take the poem called “The love letter” in which I personally wrote.  It is a poem about the Lord speaking to you, asking you to receive Him as your own personal Savior.  So once again, I was obedient to the prompting of the Lord, and went to visit my Dad with the poem in hand.

 Before I walked into the hospital room, I prayed to the Lord, and I asked God please remove anyone from his room that may hinder my Dad from receiving from the Lord as his personal Savior.  He did!  Everyone that was in his room left and no one else came into the room!

As I sat and talked with my Dad, I asked him if he would like to hear a poem that I wrote, and he said yes.  I opened my journal and began reading to him.  As I began to read, I began to cry, but this time I had no one to pass it onto, I had to finish reading it myself.

 I am not so sure if he understood what I was saying through all of my tears, but I am sure I understood my Dad as I asked him if he would like to receive Jesus as his Savior.  He said yes!  That day he repeated after me, the sinner’s prayer and received Christ into his heart.  Praise the Lord!!!  When the doctors released my Dad from the hospital, we moved him into my sister and brother in-laws home where Hospice would arrive to care for him.

On the night before Easter Sunday, my Dad asked if we would go to the store and purchase a dress shirt for him to wear so he would be able to attend church on Easter Sunday.

The next morning, on Easter Sunday, Hospice arrived to bathe my Dad; he had suddenly changed for the worse, and began deteriorating rapidly. The nurse could not manage bathing my Dad alone so she asked me if I would mind giving her a hand bathing him.  I knew I was being tested from God, to see if I truly had forgiven my Dad for all the abuse I endured.  So I told her I would help her; without her knowledge of what I had been through as a child, I began to help her.  My Dad’s condition worsened, he was dying, I was crying.

My brother in-law came into the room and took my place.  Within ten to fifteen minutes, my Dad passed away.  He wasn’t in church on Easter Sunday, but he was with Jesus!!!  I will never forget afterwards, my brother in-law Frankie and I changing my Dad’s shirt.  We put a blue-collared short-sleeved shirt on my Dad, not a Sunday dress shirt.

 It was a bittersweet day for all of my family, but for me, I know I was truly able to forgive my Dad for all of his trespasses against me!  In addition, my Dad was truly forgiven by the Lord. The blood of the Lamb redeemed him!  Now he resides in heaven, free from sin, sickness, sorrow, shame, and pain, where death has no hold!  AMEN!!!  

Both my Dad and I received victory that day!!!  God never said forgiveness would come easy, but He did say, that we must forgive those who trespass against us, and then God will forgive us for our trespasses.


It has been three years now.  Even now, I had the most difficult time writing this story, reliving all of those painful memories.  I still cried and cried while I wrote this testimony, but I can rejoice.  I can honestly tell you, that I love my Dad, and I forgave my Dad.
 God Bless you as you seek God’s help in forgiving someone who has abused you, and find freedom in forgiveness!  Amen


The suffering that we have suffered,

can't compare to Christ's suffering!

How can we withhold forgiveness?

Romans 3:23

For all have sinned,

and fall short of the glory of God 


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  Pslam 107:20

He Sent His Word And Healed Them,

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A New Life!!!

Titus 2:11-14 NIV (Read From Your Bible) A God Honoring Life; A Life Changed By The Power Of God; Enabling Us To Live A Life Pleasing Our Heavenly Father. A Victorious New Life!!! Psalm 86:11 NLT Teach Me, Your Ways O Lord,That I May Live According To Your Truth! Grant Me Purity Of Heart, So That I May Honor You.

A New Hope!!!

Psalm 16:7-11 (Read From Your Bible) Hope For The Hopeless!!! Show Me The Path Where I Should Walk, O Lord; Point Out The Right Road For Me To Follow. Lead Me By Your Truth And Teach Me, For You Are The God Who Saves Me, All Day Long I Put My HOPE In You. Psalm 25:4-5

A New Begining!!!

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